Tom Daley - Something I Want to Say

Tom Daley - Something I Want to Say

Anthony Ogogo - Gold Speedos
'Numerous variations of this screen-grab from 'Splash !' were pinged around the virtual world.
It's 'our Tom' with Olympic boxer Anthony Ogogo.
"Are you thinking what we are thinking?" 
While some might think it amusing - it's also rather sad.
Tom sexuality has been up for debate for a long time - and I wonder if he even knows himself - even now ?
And perhaps one should worry about Tom, now he's become a Saturday 'teatime' TV 'superstar' and is regularly 'exposing himself' - meaning just by being himself - he'll just be the subject of ever more scrutiny - check Twitter for endless comments just on how he walks and talks.

Tom Daley 'checks out' Anthony Ogogo
And PR feeds and 'paparazzi shots' to the press about his possible 'friends' will ultimately only make it worse. 
It's already seeping in, slow as sludge - for now.
And who do you think writes the 'celeb mags' and tabloid gossip pages? 
It's gay guys, who think that being 'gay' is almost boringly normal - and that now it's being 'in the closet' that's a little 'queer' - or should we say odd.  
And meanwhile the poor boy is probably still dying inside, and silently 'screaming' - even although he deludes himself that he is 'happy' and 'safe' - after all, who is really 'happy' or 'safe'.

So many people will be saying 'Finally !' - or 'I told you so !' or something similar.
But Tom's little video bombshell is not really all it seems to be.
It gives the impression, with its 'wobbly' framing - and impromptu, of the cuff style, that it's Tom just having a personal chat with you.
In reality, of course it's a carefully crafted piece of publicity utilising an autocue.
Realising that Tom was inevitably soon to be 'outed' with a vengence, the video is a pre-emptive strike aimed at damage limitation.
Notice that Tom does not use the words 'gay' or 'coming out'.
He simply states that he has a relationship with a 'guy' - and he adds that he still 'fancies' girls.
Now it was obvious to many, from when Tom was a boy, that he was 'fay' and effeminate - and the bullying at school was from the other boys who perceived Tom as 'gay'.
In addition Tom never had a 'real' girlfriend - just girls who were friends.
Yet Tom (wisely) refuses to allow himself to be given a 'gay' label.
Career-wise, (in terms of advertising) of course, the 'gay' label would be financial suicide.
Only a small percentage of the population would describe themselves as 'gay', and so, for the advertiser, a 'gay' media/sports star would not have sufficient general appeal for them to be a profitable proposition.
However, an even smaller percentage of the population would label themselves 'bi-sexual' (although, in fact, bi-sexuality - to some degree is the normative sexual position), and so Tom is careful to avoid that term as well.
With great skill, he has obviously been advised to present his sexuality in terms of a positive 'relationship' - which just happens to be with a 'guy'.
In addition, the form of the relationship is not specified.
Comment in the media indicates that most people have taken the relationship to be a sexual one - a 'gay relationship', but Daley dosen't use the word 'gay' or sexual in the video.
The way is, therefore, open for him to 'flip-flop', and if things become problematic, to indicate it that the relationship in question was a 'platonic' (non-sexual or non-physical) relationship.
Daley admits in the first part of the video that he has been 'vague' when talking about some 'intimate' matters.
Probably the word 'devious' or 'misleading' would be more suitable.
In this video, however, which puportedly clears everything up, he is equally vague.
All he reveals is that he is having a 'relationship' with a 'guy', and that he feels happy and 'safe'.
The true nature of the relationship is not made clear, the identity of the 'guy' is not given (although his identity is obviously known), and the actual nature of Daley's sexuality is not indicated.
So everything is still very 'vague', and the video is a 'red herring' - a false trail intended to put to right the so called 'misquote'.
It would have been refreshing if Tom had simply said 'I'm gay (or bisexual), and having a gay relationship with .........' (and we all know who), rather than this carefully scripted ramble intended to make the event as anodyne as possible.
During an interview on 'The Jonathan Ross Show' to be aired on 7 December, Daley chose not to identify his lover - despite the fact that everybody knows his identity.
Daley gushed:
"I'd never felt the feeling of love, it happened so quickly, I was completely overwhelmed by it to the point I can't get him out of my head all the time."
In the words of the song - 'There may be trouble ahead.'

Tom Daley 'coming out' was the top trending topic on Twitter moments after the Youtube video appeared.  While the 19-year-old athlete has received supportive tweets – including from such famous gays as Neil Patrick Harris, Jason Collins and Stephen Fry – there has been an onslaught of negative feedback ranging from 'snarky' to homophobic slurs.

Here is a sampling:

@mashhorne: Told you all Tom Daley was a dirty fag!
@DrugFeud: I can’t believe Tom Daley is gay I’m not a fan of his anymore! he’s going to hell it’s Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve.

@DopeBieber: we all knew Tom Daley was a fag
@Brit_Probs: Tom Daley has announced that he likes men. In other news water is wet
@sickipedia: Tom Daley revealed that when he met his new boyfriend that something just clicked. Probably your knees on the way back up Tom.
@Official_Craig: Tom Daley came out as gay? That’s like the Pope declaring that he’s Catholic! #WouldNeverHaveGuessed
@revelectrique: Tom Daley coming out as gay, is like hitler coming out and saying, guys, I don’t really like them Jews that much
@Skobisco: Lmao ahahaha tom daley was a fag before he came out of Narnia, he’s a bigger fag now

For his part, Daley chose to address the support he has received tweeting: @TomDaley1994: Overwhelmed by all the support ! Means the world !

Dustin Lance Black

Dustin Lance Black
Dustin Lance Black (born June 10, 1974) is an American screenwriter, director, film and television producer, and LGBT rights activist. He has won an Writers Guild of America Award and an Academy Award for the 2008 film 'Milk'.

'Milk' is a 2008 American biographical film based on the life of gay rights activist and politician Harvey Milk, who was the first openly gay person to be elected to public office in California, as a member of the San Francisco Board of Supervisors. Directed by Gus Van Sant and written by Dustin Lance Black, the film stars Sean Penn as Milk and Josh Brolin as Dan White, a city supervisor who assassinated Milk. The film was released to much acclaim, and earned numerous accolades from film critics and guilds. Ultimately, it received eight Academy Award nominations, including Best Picture, winning two for Best Actor in a Leading Role for Penn, and Best Original Screenplay for Black.

Black is a Founding board member of the American Foundation for Equal Rights and writer of 8, a staged re-enactment of the federal trial that led to a federal court's overturn of California's Proposition 8.

Early Life

Black was born in Sacramento, California, and grew up in a Mormon (?) household, in San Antonio, Texas and later moved to Salinas, California when his mother remarried.
His father had been the Mormon missionary who had baptised Black's mother earlier.
Growing up surrounded by Mormon culture and military bases, Black worried about his sexuality.
He told himself, "I'm going to hell. And if I ever admit it, I'll be hurt, and I'll be brought down" .
He found himself attracted to a boy in his neighbourhood at the age of six or seven.
He says that his "acute awareness" of his sexuality made him dark, shy and at times suicidal. He came out in his senior year of college.
While attending North Salinas High School, Black began to work in theatre at The Western Stage in Salinas-Monterey, California, and later worked on productions including 'Bare' at Hollywood's Hudson Main Stage Theater.
Black attended the University of California, Los Angeles, School of Theater, Film, and Television (UCLA) while apprenticing with stage directors, taking acting jobs and working on theatre lighting crews.
He graduated with honours from UCLA's School of Theater, Film and Television in 1996.


In 2000, he wrote and directed 'The Journey of Jared Price', a gay romance film, and 'Something Close to Heaven', a gay coming-of-age short film.
In 2001, he directed and was a subject in the documentary 'On the Bus' about a Nevada road trip and adventure at Burning Man taken by six gay men.
Raised as Mormon, he was hired as the only such writer on the HBO drama series 'Big Love', about a polygamistic family.
He has written for all seasons, serving on season one as a staff writer, executive story editor in season two, and was promoted again, to co-producer, for season three.
Black had first visited San Francisco in the early 1990s, while AIDS was devastating the city's gay community.
Black said that, "Hearing about Harvey was about the only hopeful story there was at the time."
He had first viewed Rob Epstein's documentary 'The Times of Harvey Milk' when he was in college, and thought, "I just want to do something with this, why hasn't someone done something with this ?"
Researching Milk's life for three years, Black met with Milk's former aides, Cleve Jones and Anne Kronenberg, as well as former San Francisco Mayor Art Agnos, and began to write a feature film screenplay encompassing the events of Milk's life.
The screenplay was written on spec, but Black showed the script to Jones, who passed it on to his friend Gus Van Sant, who signed on to direct the feature.
Black is an old friend of 'Milk' producer Dan Jinks, who signed on to the biopic after he called Black to congratulate him and discovered that the project did not have a confirmed producer.
Black's film 'Pedro', profiling the life of AIDS activist, and reality television personality Pedro Zamora, premiered at the 2008 Toronto International Film Festival.
Coming up, Paris Barclay is slated to direct his screenplay 'A Life Like Mine' and Gus Van Sant is set to direct his film adaptation of Tom Wolfe's book 'The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test'. Black directed his own script Virginia, starring Jennifer Connelly.

On February 22, 2009, Black won the Oscar for Best Original Screenplay for 'Milk' at the 81st Academy Awards.
He wore a White Knot to the ceremony as a symbol of solidarity with the marriage equality movement.
In his acceptance speech at the Oscar ceremony, he said:
... When I was thirteen years old my beautiful mother and my father moved me from a conservative Mormon home in San Antonio, Texas to California and I heard the story of Harvey Milk and it gave me hope. It gave me the hope to live my life, it gave me the hope to one day I could live my life openly as who I am, and that maybe even I could fall in love and one day get married...'
"I want to thank my mom, who has always loved me for who I am even when there was pressure not to...'
"But most of all, if Harvey had not been taken from us 30 years ago, I think he would want me to say to all of the gay and lesbian kids out there tonight who have been told that they are less than by their churches, or by the government, or by their families, that you are beautiful, wonderful creatures of value, and that no matter what anyone tells you, God does love you and that very soon I promise you, you will have equal rights federally across this great nation of ours.'
"Thank you, and thank you God for giving us Harvey Milk."
Black marched in the National Equality March and delivered a speech in front of the Congress Building to an estimated crowd of 200,000 LGBT rights activists on October 11, 2009.
In 2010, Black narrated 8: The Mormon Proposition, a documentary about the involvement of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (LDS) in California's Proposition 8.
Black accepted the award for best documentary for 8:The Mormon Proposition at the GLAAD Media awards in San Francisco and spoke out on discrimination in the LDS Church and meeting with the church to make it more LGBT-inclusive.
Black wrote the screenplay for J. Edgar, a biographical drama released November 11, 2011, directed by Clint Eastwood and starring Leonardo DiCaprio.
In 2011, Black wrote the play 8, which portrays the actual events in the Hollingsworth v. Perry trial and the testimony which led to the overturn of California's Proposition 8.
He created the play due to the federal court's refusal to allow release of video recordings from the trial and to give the public a true account of what transpired in the courtroom.
It is written and performed using original transcripts from the trial and journalist records, along with first-hand interviews of the people involved. "8" first opened at the Eugene O'Neill Theatre in New York City on September 19, 2011, and later broadcast to a worldwide audience on YouTube from the Ebell of Los Angeles Theatre on March 3, 2012.
The American Foundation for Equal Rights (AFER) and Broadway Impact, sponsors of "8", have now released and licensed the play for readings nationwide on college campuses and in community theatres free of charge.
Black appears as himself in the documentary film 'Hollywood to Dollywood' (2012).

Personal life

Black was the top entry on a list of openly gay influential people in The Advocate's "Forty under 40" issue of June/July 2009.
He was featured on the cover of the magazine.
He was one of the Official Grand Marshals in the 2009 NYC LGBT Pride March, produced by Heritage of Pride joining Anne Kronenberg and Cleve Jones.
On January 24, 2012, Black's brother Marcus died of cancer.